Enable a Xfce/Xubuntu Remote Desktop, Vino, Desktop Sharing
http://www.ehow.com/how_6980234_enable-xubuntu-remote-desktop.html
http://askubuntu.com/questions/71309/how-do-i-enable-remote-desktop-connection-on-xubuntu-11-10
Input the following line to install vino:
sudo apt-get install vino
Input the following line to configure vino:
vino-preferences
Follow the onscreen instructions to make changes to your remote desktop sharing preferences.
Go to XFCE settings manager and select "session and startup" and "application auto start"
Click Add and Enter the following command to start the vino server:
/usr/lib/vino/vino-server